A Women's Identity

What is Identity? It is a word which describes who we are, but in women's life this word has a different meaning. She has no Identity of her own, as a child she is recognised by her father's name and after marriage by her husband's name. Where has her identity gone? No one knows who she is. She is always referred as a daughter or as a wife and not by her own name.

She plays many role in her life such as daughter, sister, wife, mother, daughter in law. By playing all this roles she forget who she is, what's her identity. Before marriage she plays role of a daughter and sister. She always thinks of her family, their likes dislikes and all. She forgets that she is a human being she also need to think of her likes and dislikes. At a point of time when she starts to think she gets married. After marriage priority changes and she starts to think about what her husband and in laws will like and think. She work according to their likes and thinking. At each and every point before starting anything new she has to think whether her family will like it or not, will they allow her to do anything new? All this questions goes on mind while starting any new venture and after thinking about all this she decides to quit the idea.

Though is capable of doing everything she has to be dependent on everyone. At each and every point in life she has to sacrifice everything. She sacrifices her dream, her job, her friends and many lots more. Sacrifice is another name of women. I don't understand why we women always think of others likes and dislikes. Why we can't think for ourselves? Why we don't do what we like. Why we always have to be dependent on others? Why we can't take decision on our own? We just have to adjust and sacrifice everything in life. While doing this whole life one day our life comes to an end with unfulfilled dreams and regret of not doing anything according to our will.

Women in Today’s Age

Role of women in today’s age has changed immensely as compared to old time. Women were not given the respectable position, were not allowed to raise their voice for injustice happening to them and were not allowed getting education. But nowadays, they are getting educated, doing decent job and have started matching shoulders with men.

In today’s world women are much stronger in emotion and intellect and are very good in multitasking. They simultaneously manage house and professional work responsibility very well. Now she is not the one who is bound to be in kitchen and look after the house. Now she stands equally to men attaining the same position as that of men.

Nowadays, there is hardly any field left in which women are not leading. Let’s take the areas such as politics, science and technology, education, business, sports, acting whatever the field is. Let’s take the example of Ms. Indra Nooyi (head of Pepsico, USA), Chanda Kochhar (MD and CEO of ICICI Bank), Mallika Sarabhai, Kiran Bedi (Indian Police Officer), Barkha Dutt (Reporter) and many other. They have achieved a great position in today’s world as compared to earlier years. In the early days, they were not allowed to go out and work as the thinking of people at that time was orthodox. They were not allowed to raise voice against injustice happening to them. Women’s were bound to stay at home and look after children and house. At some places they were treated like animals and no one used to defend them. There was gender discrimination at the time of birth, as birth of girl was considered bad luck. The old age traditions were also strict such as ‘Sati’ system. Girls were not allowed to study as they think that girls should know only household things and study and job is meant only for the boys and if girls are educated no one would marry them.

But nowadays, the whole trend has changed. Even the government is taking lot of steps to educate a girl and taking measures to save a girl child. Government is providing free education service to girls so that more and more girls are educated, as it is said that ‘If You Educate a Women You Educate Whole House’ and the generation ahead. In this age as compared to boys, girls are highly educated and are trying to attain that high position in the society.

Women have become more practical today. Besides the bigger and more noticeable changes which have widely affected the world is that there has been a subtle change of the role women play in the household.  Eventually women’s’ image from being “housewife” or the primary homemakers and caretakers of the children has vanished.  Now women and men are both bread earners, the stereotypical role of women is slowly dissolving and they are sharing the responsibilities that come with the house and family.

Despite of all these changes, still boys are preferred in many households across number of sects as they are considered superior compared to girls. Still the gender discrimination prevails in the society. Though women numbered more percent of the population, yet they are facing time and again various hurdles in life, unfair practices like gender discrimination, harassment and underestimation only because they are women. We must unite and eliminate this discrimination.

cna yuo raed tihs

It's basically a message where the letters of each word were all scrambled. The first and the last letters were kept intact, but between them they were all mixed. Below you will find the message. Can you read it?

"fi yuo cna raed tihs, yuo hvae a sgtrane mnid too. Cna yuo raed tihs? Olny 55 plepoe out of 100 can.

i cdnuolt blveiee taht I cluod aulaclty uesdnatnrd waht I was rdanieg. The phaonmneal pweor of the hmuan mnid, aoccdrnig to a rscheearch at Cmabrigde Uinervtisy, it dseno’t mtaetr in waht oerdr the ltteres in a wrod are, the olny iproamtnt tihng is taht the frsit and lsat ltteer be in the rghi t pclae. The rset can be a taotl mses and you can sitll raed it whotuit a pboerlm. Tihs is bcuseae the huamn mnid deos not raed ervey lteter by istlef, but the wrod as a wlohe. Azanmig huh? yaeh and I awlyas tghuhot slpeling was ipmorantt! if you can raed tihs forwrad it."

They say that only 55 people out of 100 can read that way.

“A Travelogue to God’s Place”

“God’s own country” Kerala is a place where we find ourselves in the lap of nature. It’s a place to get mesmerized by the natural beauty. The waterfalls, wildlife, mountains and the greenery all around is the best part of Kerala. A trip to Kerala with my husband last year enthralled us by the natural beauty.

Our train tickets were not confirmed. At that moment we got our one ticket confirmed and then we waited to get other ticket confirm for that night. We had to pay some extra charge for it. But for next night we got other seat in different compartment so that night we had to sleep on one seat only. There was one South Indian family opposite our seat and at lunch time we saw that they were eating some non-vegetarian food as I saw bones of some sea food. Smell at that moment was pathetic and we used to close our curtains and spray the air freshener. And the other family in cross of our seat were really very interesting at each and every stop they use to get down and have some food and use to take food and tea from each chaiwala and other people coming to sale food. They guys were really amazing and we did our time pass by watching them eating all the time and making fun of them. The view from the train was also great. There were many tunnels coming in the way. Though it was 36 hour long journey we enjoyed it a lot.

We got off at Trivandrum station and our taxi driver cum guide was waiting there and took us to Kovalam, the place of beaches. It took around an hour to reach there. After seeing the warm sandy beach with crashing waves our all fatigue of 36 hours long train journey was gone. We stayed at Neelkantha hotel. The view from the balcony of the room was simply great. After relaxing, hunger crept in and we started hunting for vegetarian food. So we went to Trivandrum to have lunch as there we get vegetarian food. That day we went to the nearby beach it was the private beach of Leela Hotel. In evening at beach we got relaxed in sand and water. At night we went to the local market there. The ambience of shops was not very good it had low light and small shops. Outside of each and every hotel there were the crabs and prawns and other sea food displayed in the glass box. The smell that was coming on that way was terrible as we are not habituated to that smell. Next day morning we saw fisherman catching fish in the big net that was really the best thing to watch as we haven’t seen that before. Next day we booked two chairs on beach and did lot of Masti in water and sand. That were really a wonderful moments. Small crabs and snails were coming on the edge of the beach. We collected many shells of different sizes. The view of the beach was very much fascinating. There were activities such as speed boating which was very thrilling experience. We had been there for around two n half days but we felt that also less as its very nice place.  It’s really the best place to relax and rejuvenate our self. On the next day morning after having breakfast we left for Kanyakumari.

Kanyakumari is the place of “Triveni Sangam”. It’s called so because it’s a place where Indian Ocean, Arabian Sea and Bay of Bengal meet. While on the way to Kanyakumari we went to Poover beach. Poovar is one among the natural wonders where the Lake, River, Sea and Beach meet the land. This is a backwater and the beach there is so clean and so pure. This area is mainly for fishing. To reach the beach we hired a boat and the scene while going there was really mesmerizing. On both the side there are trees that add beauty to this place. There in-between was the idol of Jesus Christ we asked our boatman to stop the boat there and then we went there and clicked many pictures. We had our lunch at hotel on the way to Kanyakumari. In lunch they serve only roti chawal and the food is given on banana leaf. Few things in the platter were bit strange. In Kerala people first have rice and then they have roti which is quiet different.  While on the way I got fever so didn’t had any food and just took fresh juice.

We reached Kanyakumari by evening and took room from which we can see the sunrise but as it was very cloudy so we missed that chance. The must watch places in Kanyakumari are Kanyakumari temple, Gandhi memorial and the Vivekanand Rock and the other place is Triveni Sangam. At Triveni Sangam we went down the stairs to wet our legs as its considered holy thing. I took out my sleepers and kept it on side to wet my legs at that time high tide came and took my sleeper with it then after few seconds as the tide came back again I got my sleeper back. Next day morning we went to Vivekanand Rock. There are two things to see there, one is the memorial and other is the rock where there is huge idol of Swami Vivekanand. It was raining too heavily and the tides were very high with cool wind. As I was suffering from fever we went only to the memorial and didn’t go to the idol as there was a big queue. On the next day we left for Alleppey.

Alleppey is an important tourist destination in India. Backwater of Alleppey is world famous and is the most popular tourist attraction in Kerala and it is also known as “Venice of the east”. We reached their late night around 10.30. On the way we had dinner at one restaurant the food was really delicious actually I forgot the name of hotel. After reaching we searched for some nice hotels and cottages. That night we stayed at different hotel as is was too late so we were not able to search proper one. We didn’t wanted to stay in houseboat so next morning after having breakfast we went to search a hotel. Our search ended at the beautiful cottage Lemon Dew. Actually they provide rooms only to the foreigners but luckily we got room. Then we went to have a ride to backwaters. We hired a boat and took a two hour ride. We need to bargain for the rates of boat. The view on the way was very much fascinating. There are thousands of houseboats of different sizes i.e. two rooms, three rooms and up to six to seven rooms. In between we saw a place where spectacular snake - boat races take place. Then we had coconut on the dhaba on one side of the water. There was eagle of that dhabawala we placed that eagle on our shoulder and then clicked pics. There were many resorts on both the side. On the next day we left for Thekkady.





On the way to Thekkady the natural beauty was very mesmerizing. There were tea plantation on both the sides of road and the atmosphere was very foggy. As it’s a hilly region the roads were very small and it took a long time to reach there. There were many waterfalls on the way we stopped at every falls and took pictures as the scene was great. Thekkady is one of India's most fascinating natural wildlife sanctuaries, where you can watch wildlife at close range. The vegetation, the flora and fauna and th  e birds of Thekkady are uniquely rich, vast and varied that it does not bear semblance to any other wildlife sanctuaries in the world. There we stayed at Hotel Ambadi. We used to have our meals at hotel High Range residency as there we got our Gujarati food after a long time. One day we went to rejuvenate our self at the ayurvedic massage centre.  We went to the spice garden and there we had elephant ride. There was plantation of coffee, clove, bananas and many other spices. On the next day we went to Periyar Tiger Reserve. The Periyar forest of Thekkady is one of the finest wildlife reserves in India. The Thekkady sanctuary is one of the best in the country for watching and photographing wild life. We need to go there in cruise. The animals there are the tigers, the majestic Asiatic wild elephants and the distinctive Nilgiri langur. Other animals include the wild boar, wild dog, bison, bear, deer and leopards. By our bad luck we could see only the Sambar Deer that too from a great distance. There on the boat few couples messed up with the management of the cruise as they allocated seats very unevenly. There we have two kinds of cruise one is of govt. and other is private. The govt. one is quiet cheap compared to the private one we came to knew this after we took ticket of private service. At night we went for shopping at the local market. We bought many different kinds of Masala’s and cashew nuts and many other things. It’s the best place to buy spices. Next day we left for Munnar.

Munnar is a hill Station and is greatly known for its splendid green mountains, Valleys and streams. Munnar boasts of unending tea estates covering the hill station. At Munnar we  stayed at Hotel Bell Mount Resort near CSI Christ Church, it is the most famous church there. We can see the church from our balcony. The day we arrived there we went to see the dam, the echo point and then we went for speed boating. Speed boating was of around 15 to 20 minutes and was a thrilling experience. This all places were really great. On the next day we went to the Eravikulam National Park it’s located on a great height. We need to go there by the govt. bus. The ticket rates were different for Indians and foreigners. On its way many waterfalls are there. The road to the top was very narrow. This park sprawling over an area of 97 sq. km is home to an amazing number of Nilgiri Thars. We need to walk a lot to see the Thars. We walked a lot but were unable to see Thars at last while leaving we saw but that too from a great distance. On the next day we left for Cochin.

The way to Cochin was very long. While on the way we had lunch at the hotel coming on the way there we had Chana Masala and Appam it was really mouth-watering. The day we reached Cochin in evening we went to see Chinese Fishing Nets, Jewish Synagogue and while on the way we saw a board of Jain temple. And we went there. The temple was very big and spread in vast area.  It was really nice to visit there as we went to our Mandir after a long time of 11 days. Then at night we went to local market and went to have dinner at the nearby restaurant. Next day after having breakfast we packed our bags to return back to Ahmedabad. We left for airport around 11 am as the route was quiet long. Our flight had few min stop at Bombay airport but due to heavy air traffic we need to wait there for around 45 minute and then finally around 6.30 we reached Ahmedabad airport.  

This 12 days trip was really a great experience and had a good time there. Kerala is really a nice place to visit. It’s really called God’s own country. We had many hurdles in our trip but we managed it. The main hurdle was the food. If we are vegetarian then we need to carry some food along with us as there we find problem to get vegetarian food. One thing we noticed was the people there are quiet weird as they use to stare in such a way that we feel very odd. If you want to relax and rejuvenate yourself then I would suggest going Kerala. It’s the “land of beauty”. At last it was really a great experience and enjoyed the whole trip.   

Reality Shows

Nowadays, the craze of reality shows is increasing. Are the reality shows such as Big Boss, Splitsvilla, Roadies, Emotional Attyachar  and other having positive effect on the youngsters? Do they affect the moral values of the country?

The answer to the above questions is yes. They do not give any kind of positive thing to the youngsters and they just decrease our moral values. India is known all over the world for its ethics and values which we got in heredity from our ancestors. These shows have affected the morals and values to a large extend. Today’s youth is spoiled and it has lead to status issues, vulgarism and many other serious issues. Channels just air this shows to gain more TRP’s and they are not at all bothered that it affects the society to a large extent.

The society is also responsible for this to a large extend. The channels show this kind of stuff as all these things are happening in our society. As today’s youth is much more advanced all this kind of stuff seems common to them. For an instance, by this kind of reality shows we got relieved from that typical Saas Bahu stories. The other thing is that by reality shows we get to know much more about the life style, likings and many other things of the celebrities and they also volunteer to open up the mask and stand in front of the camera to reflect their real life. The use of abusive language and vulgarity dominates these shows.

The government thinking on the moral issue problem has taken few steps against these shows. The channels are asked to air this shows at late night as it’s not possible to view this kind of shows with the family because they are totally adult shows, have lot of vulgarity and use of abusive language. It affects a lot on the mind of the children.

Splitsvilla aired on MTV is a show which spoils the nature of Indian girl as they fight for the attraction of boys. And the show Roadies on MTV motivates the youth to race among themselves which may cause accidents.

And the reality show Emotional Attyachar aired on UTV is a show playing game with the life of people. They take the loyalty test of the couples. In one way its good if taken in correct way as we can come to know that our partner is loyal to us or not.   There are some shows which are bit helpful to the general public such as KBC which give price money to the winners which maybe helpful to them in many ways.

We have adopted modernization too a large extends in each and every field. With the changing world we also need to change as “Change is the essence of life”. But by adopting this modernization we should not forget our old age traditions.     

Television house as a social media need to realize their responsibilities towards society and should take the effective steps. As visual media have a strong effect on the viewers and it’s through them only that we spread the news, message and other important things. So it’s their prime responsibility to look after the society and to maintain our tradition.  

       

Green Earth

We are solely responsible for the destruction of the greenery on our earth. Science and Technology, Industrialization, migration of people and many other such things are the main leads for the destruction of greenery.

For our immense pleasure and enjoyment we even don’t care weather we are harming our beautiful earth or not. As day by day our needs and luxurious are increasing we are loosing the charm and greenery on our earth.

Our “Green Earth” is now getting turned into the concrete jungle. As industrialization and population is increasing we need to have place for building factory and residential flats. For this we need to cut trees. If industrialization is increasing at a particular place then people would migrate more and the need for the particulars would increase. We would need big malls, huge buildings and vast roads to meet the needs of the people. This would lead to cutting trees that are coming in the way. By this kind of needs we knowingly and unknowingly cut so many trees and harm nature.

Our government is also responsible for harming our Earth. One side the government tells us to plant trees and on the other side they cut the huge trees for making roads and all other things. Even the government don’t bother to take effective steps to dispose off the waste that the factory produces as it affects a lot to the plants and environment  because they contains hazardous chemicals.

There are few places which are still green and untouched by all this such as “Kerala”. We can call it a “Greenland” as there is lot of greenery and pollution free environment. Plantation of different types of things is done there. Munnar and Thekkady are the two places where we feel ourselves in the lap of nature so green and so pure. The waterfalls, wildlife, mountains and plantation increase the beauty of these two places.

The reason why Kerala is green is that the people there are literate and know that what return they should get for their work so there is no industrial growth there. Other thing is, their government environmental rules are bit strict so for placing a factory many obstacles come in the way. For this reason the person may shift to some other place.

We all know that by which way we are harming our Earth but still we don’t take the effective measures to protect our beautiful Earth. We should all plant more and more trees, as that day would not be far when there will be no trees and life existing on our Earth.

As India is agriculture based country it would be bit easy for us to make India a Green country.



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